1.14.2011

Say goodbye

Have you ever heard of Miranda July and her art project of web assignments? She worked on it with Harrell Fletcher, another amazing artist. It is called Learning To Love You More. They are no longer taking submissions but I think they are good assignments to do on one's own, for learning, growing, and laughing purposes. So today I will do the last assignment, assignment #70 - Say goodbye. Why not start at the end, right?
 Besides, saying goodbye to old stuff is perfect to do in January. Or February, if you are Chinese. 
The rules are as follows (taking exactly from the website, hence the quotation marks):

"Sometimes it's hard to say goodbye. It just feels easier to keep holding on. But in the long run it's usually a good idea to let go, it's the daring thing to do. It allows room for new things, for transformation. And maybe the goodbye isn't even forever, but you can't know until you really say goodbye and mean it. In some cases, goodbye is really the end, and good riddance! For this assignment, say goodbye to all the things you need to let go of: bad habits, dead people, alive people, ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, self-destructive feelings and behaviors, jobs, projects, re-occuring thoughts, etc.Write it as a simple list: 
Goodbye Bill.Goodbye wetting the bed.Good bye interrupting people when they are talking.etc.It can be as long or as short as you like. And, most importantly, take a moment with each one to really say goodbye. This isn't a catalogue of your fears and faults, this is a ceremony to bid them farewell. Please don't send us HELLOS, only goodbyes."

I did this assignment last year (ha-ha, last month is also last year) but I'm going to do it again, in public. Here goes. 

Goodbye nasty head cold. 
Goodbye negative self-talk. 
Goodbye guilt. 
Goodbye clothes that I no longer wear.
Goodbye passive aggressiveness.
Goodbye old, terrible relationships. 
Goodbye judging others. 
Goodbye self pity. 


I think that's it for now. I felt pretty naked writing that stuff. As you can see, I have a lot of things inside of me to kiss goodbye. 
What do you need to say goodbye to in your life? 

5 comments:

natalie said...

i think we all need to do this.
we all need to feel naked once in awhile.

love you, girl :)

SherilinR said...

hmm... i could use some of that "goodbye self pity" bit myself these days.
way to go & get naked for all of us out here!

Jamie Lee said...

Oh oh, I like this project!

Goodbye self hate.
Goodbye laziness.
Goodbye FEAR and insecurity.
Goodbye foolish pride.
Goodbye closed heartedness.
Goodbye not-feeling-good-enough.
Goodbye judging mind.

Lainey Seyler said...

there are some people who i wonder if i should say goodbye to. it's so hard though, being a people pleaser.

alltheseblessedthings said...

Goodbye being angry about feeling weak.
Goodbye doubting my strengths.
Goodbye not blogging out of fear.
Goodbye not valuing what I have to say.
Goodbye pretending I can't control my stress eating.
Goodbye not being a team player in my family.